I’m back…with a vengeance!

I know it has been awhile, a LONG while but I have decided to start blogging again as part of my Quiet Time each day. I think this will help me process what the Lord is saying through His word. There will be a few changes to the blog as a whole as well. Look around and see!

I’m just going to jump right in and begin with the first devotional in my Women’s Daily Devotional Bible. Today’s devotional is called “God’s Image Bearers.” It discusses the passage Genesis 1:27-31. It is about humans being made in God’s Image. The devotional discusses how women in our culture tend have a very negative self-image. I know from experience that this is true. Negative body image and self-esteem are things I have been dealing with for a long time. I have never thought I was particularly attractive or even very smart. But this passage reminds women and men that we are ALL created in God’s image and therefore are all beautiful no matter what the media may tell us.

I think this passage also points out that we are not to be focused on the outside. As Colossians 1:15 says, Jesus Christ “is the image of the invisible God” and according to 2 Corinthians 3:18 believers are constantly “being transformed into [Christ’s] likeness.” So that tells us we are to be focused on becoming beautiful and Christlike on the inside because God being invisible does not have an “outside,” at least not as we know it.

This should take a lot of pressure off of us. But it’s not that easy, is it? We are constantly being bombarded with images that tell us we must be super-skinny, so skinny it’s not humanly possible. And even though we know it’s not possible we try anyway. Why? Because we constantly forget that we are not of this world, we are not meant to try to attain the goals of this world but we are always invited to and too often we accept this invitation because it seems so enticing. We are told by the world a perfect body will get us the perfect guy or girl, the perfect life, and all of the material goods we could want, and most of all that we will be happy.

I am not saying that we can all eat what we want and not exercise; being healthy should be one of our goals but we are not to overemphasize this as part of our lives. Our real goal should be growing closer to God and becoming more Christlike. If we follow Christ we will try to be healthy without obsessing and taking it too far and our self-image will improve.

It is my goal to try to stop being so discouraged about my physical appearance and focus on how God sees me which is as a beautiful young daughter of God. I need to focus on qualities that will make me more Christlike. Please pray for me and other girls (men too!) and women like me who struggle with a negative body image.

The Only True Judge

Humility by CJ Mahaney- Read it.

As I get older I realize how unworthy I am of God’s grace. One class, and really one teacher, this semester has done a lot to show me that. Every semester I seem to have one class that I cannot get motivated for. Usually my lack of motivation stems from disinterest in the subject but occasionally it comes from a lack of respect for the teacher. This semester my problems in my problem are due to the latter reason, lack of respect for the teacher. These feelings of disrespect are only made easier when my classmates reinforce my comments and thoughts about her inability to effectively run a class. However for my Bible Study this year I have been reading Humility by CJ Mahaney and I have been thinking about my deficiencies and why I need God. I have come to realize that it is very un-Christian of me to disrespect my professor when she is trying her hardest to help us in our education. It is not for me to judge her; that is God’s job. In realizing how judgmental I am of her I have realized how judgmental I can be in general. It is something I try to hide from the world but we cannot hide anything form God, He knows all of our shortcomings but the beautiful thing about God is: He loves anyway. So this week I will be working on not judging people but starting to think of them as God’s creations and something that is very important to Him and therefore people that should be important to me as well.

In Switchfoot’s The Beautiful Letdown we are reminded why we as Christians cannot be judgmental, “We are a beautiful letdown, painfully uncool. The Church of the dropouts, the losers, the sinners, the failures, and the fools.” We cannot judge others because we ourselves are imperfect and all fall short of the glory of God (Romans 3:23). As Jesus said, “Let him without sin cast the first stone.”

I also would like to apologize to one of my dearest friends if I offended you with my Duke hate this past weekend. If you are reading this and I hope you are, I still love you, even if you love the Blue Devils. This entry is for you.


This week has been full of tests for me. I had a midterm on Wednesday that was very easy. And I just finished a test this morning that was not necessarily easy but I knew the material so it was not too bad. But my teacher did one thing that I hate while we were taking the test. A student asked if they should have one of each of the four possible choices and he told the whole class not to assume they should have one of each, that was a bad assumption. I had already finished that section and was pretty confident in my answers but I had one of each. So his statement made me doubt my answers. Sometimes when students ask a question I think teachers need to answer that student. I didn’t change any of my answers because I was still pretty sure they were right but I was and still am a little worried about that section.

This week also held another test for me. My car has been making these awful noises whenever I put on the brakes. I knew I should at least get it looked at before I try to drive back to St. Louis but I don’t live here so I didn’t know of any good car places. Anyone who knows me knows that I am not good at talking on the phone or asking people for help because I don’t want to inconvenience anyone. Something I have to work on is trusting that people might want to help me and that it is not an inconvenience for them. But anyway I finally asked a few people for some suggestions of good honest car shops. I got about three or four suggestions but then I had to go through another test. I had to actually go to the car shop and ask for them to look at my car. I have a fear of car shops because they have a reputation of kind of ripp

ing people, especially young girls, off. But I overcame my fear and took my car in. They called this morning and told my car should be done sometime today. So maybe from now on I can have a little more confidence in asking for help and being in uncomfortable situations.

Faraway Friends

Since I go to school about ten or eleven hours from home I have a lot of friends who are far away now. A lot of these friends I still keep in touch with through things like Twitter and Facebook. But there is one friend, Hilary, that I have a very special relationship with. We send each other hand written letters and notes. She goes to school in Atlanta so I get to go visit her sometimes but she doesn’t have a car so she can’t come up to Clemson hardly at all. And I only get to go visit her about once or maybe twice a semester.

I just finished writing Hilary a letter for Valentine’s Day, which I missed by a lot obviously. And when I think about her I realize that your closest friends are the ones that you can be yourself around and not worry about what they think of you. That is how I can be with Hilary. We don’t necessarily agree on things like politics or other things like that but that doesn’t we love each other anyway for who we are. I can say goofy things to her that I wouldn’t say to anyone else. When I quote movies to her (which I do a lot) she doesn’t get mad at me or tell me I’m weird.

There are only a few other people in the world that I feel like I can be myself around without any reservations. My family, my former youth minister and his wife, my old youth group, and some people who go to my church in St. Louis. I think it is interesting how Hilary, who I have only known really well for about four years or so, has already become like family to me.

What about you? What do you think makes your best friends your best friends? Is there that one person in your life that even distance doesn’t affect your friendship?

Hello world!

Hey all!

My name is Melissa and I am a sophomore Early Childhood Education major at Clemson University in Clemson, Sout Carolina. I am originally from St. Louis, Missouri, where I went to Webster Groves High School (I know all of you St. Louisans were wondering). I am a member of Kappa Alpha Theta, a sorority here at Clemson. My sorority is very important to me and actually helped me come up with the name of this blog. We have a saying, “Why walk when you can fly?” and so I chose the name “Learning to Fly” to illustrate how I am constantly trying to become a better person, as well as to honor Tom Petty (my mom’s favorite).

This is not my first foray into the blogging world, I had one at mlblogs.com (which is a great place, you should check it out), but this is my first blog not solely about sports. I love sports though so I will probably have a lot to say about sports in this blog. My favorite sport is baseball and my favorite team is the Cleveland Indians, followed very closely by the St. Louis Cardinals. My next favorite sport is College Basketball (not professional, they are different games for me) so as you can probably imagine I am pretty excited for March Madness. My favorite basketball teams are the Clemson Tigers and the Fighting Illini. I am also a self-professed Olympaholic (addicted to the Olympics) so I am very sad that they are over and now cannot wait for London 2012.

However I am first and foremost a daughter of God and I want this blog to demonstrate my walk with the Lord and all that I learn about Him as I go through life. I got a new Devotional book yesterday at my church, Crosspoint, called Contentment by Lydia Brownback. I started it this morning and something she said really struck me. She says, “Good times are designed to come and go, but contentment is designed to be constant for all who are in Christ.” I am going to consciously try to live my life this way from now on. As the great hymn says, “When sorrows like sea billows roll… thou has taught me to say it is well with my soul.”